ABUSE

This page will have lots of links in the future. I hope this information helps others.  This information is so much easier to say, than to take the advice. Learn from other women's mistakes. Keep searching. Keep asking for help. You are an intelligent woman. Our hearts are bigger than our heads sometimes. It don't matter how much you love him if he is not treating you with love, than you are being abused.

For an update: He can change if he wants to change.  Prayer, love, hope and faith works sometimes. Don't count on it, but if it happens that he wants to be different than you can have a life together.

 The Mystery of Loving an Abuser 

            Is There Something Else Involved?  Cognitive Dissonance

            SS & CD Combining Two Unhealthy Conditions & Treatment

            Family and Friends of the Victim

                    6 types of investments: Emotional, social, family, financial, lifestyle, & intimacy 

 The Loser - Warning Signs you are dating or married to a loser 

        Dangerous versions of losers

        Guidelines for Detachment (leaving) and Follow-up Protection

  When You Keep Hoping And Thinking He Will Change  He can - but ONLY if he want to change.

  This is such a beautiful song that I want to share it with all those hurting.  This song is called "Bricks From The Ashes"

This song is so true of how we feel. He still has all of me. Why?  It is called "My Immortal" by Evanescence It is beautiful to hear. I was going to put down just a couple of lines...but all the lines are beautiful.

My Immortal"

I'm so tired of being here
Suppressed by all my childish fears
And if you have to leave
I wish that you would just leave
'Cause your presence still lingers here
And it won't leave me alone

These wounds won't seem to heal
This pain is just too real
There's just too much that time cannot erase

[Chorus:]
When you cried I'd wipe away all of your tears
When you'd scream I'd fight away all of your fears
I held your hand through all of these years
But you still have
All of me

You used to captivate me
By your resonating light
Now I'm bound by the life you left behind
Your face it haunts
My once pleasant dreams
Your voice it chased away
All the sanity in me

These wounds won't seem to heal
This pain is just too real
There's just too much that time cannot erase

[Chorus]

I've tried so hard to tell myself that you're gone
But though you're still with me
I've been alone all along

[Chorus]

Buy her CD called "Fallen"  My husband bought it for me.

1. Going Under
2. Bring Me To Life
3. Everybody's Fool 
4. My Immortal
5. Haunted
6. Tourniquet
7. Imaginary
8. Taking Over Me
9. Hello
10. My Last Breath
11. Whisper

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Diane