Enchanted Love
Our deepest human need is not material .
WE need to be seen. We need adventure. We need meaning. We need identity. We need love.
If we consider the evolution like ape to mankind, than what we are becoming is human to spiritual evolution.
Our most potent needs are psychological and emotional, our most potent language is poetry and myth, and our most potent love is forgiveness and compassion.
We need this transformation in our experience of love. We nee to transfer it from fear to love.
Growth is a detox process, as our weakest, darkest places are sucked up to the surface in order to be released. Often, upon seeing the weaknesses in each other, we have the tendency to go "Yuck!" and walk away on some level. But often it is not a change in partners but rather a change in perception that delivers us to the love we seek. When we shift our view of the purpose of intimacy - from serving our own needs as we define them to serving a larger process of healing - then an entirely new opportunity presents itself. Our wounds have been brought forward, not to block the experience of love, but to serve it. It is in the forgiveness of our weaknesses that we are healed of them, and the tenderness of a forgiven heart is a tenderness that will ultimately heal the world.
You and I both know that we have shallow sides. We have edges, my darling, and resistance to love. if we're uninvolved about this, then we will hurt each other, we will only cause pain. These aspects of ourselves could ruin this relationship.
Why did God put us together we ask?
In fact, we were brought together for healing purposes. There will be something in your personality which is bound to trigger the unhealed parts of me, and I will trigger yours.
But we can see this relationship differently. though the grace of God, it can become a healing environment rather than an emotional torture chamber. Then I think I can work on those parts of myself, and you can work on those parts of you. We can even grow beyond these things. I just need you to know that I'm trying . Please share with me, but try not to attack or judge me for these wounds I carry. and I will try my best to do the same for you. then holiness will be served here, and the relationship can deepen. forgive me, if you can, and I vow to try to forgive you.
Can the purpose of a relationship be to trigger our wounds? The is how healing happens; darkness must be exposed before it can be transformed. The purpose of an intimate relationship is not that it be a place where we can hide from our weaknesses, but rather where we can safely let them go.
It takes the strength to endure a kind of psychic surgery, an emotional and psychological and even spiritual initiation into the higher Self. Only then can we know an enchantment that lasts.
We unconsciously seek the relationships that challenge us to deliver on our most soulful selves, as well as tempt us to fall into our most neurotic patterns. We must attend to the wound in order to heal it. That is the romantic Holy Grail.
I read a book that has helped me come to some of these conclusions. If you enjoy my musings, buy the book.
