Dangerous Versions of "The Loser"

There are more severe if not dangerous versions of "The Loser" that have been identified over the years. If you are involved in a relationship with one of these versions, you may require professional and legal assistance to save yourself.

Physical Abuser Physical abusers begin the relationship with physical moving - shoving, pushing, forcing, etc. That quickly moves into verbal threats with physical gestures , and  voiced physical threats.  Eventually, these combine to form actual physical abuse - hitting, slapping, kicking or per the Psy… you will die from his wrath next time. "The Loser" is always sorry the next day and begins the mean-then-sweet cycle all over again. Getting away from physical abusers often requires the assistance of family, law enforcement agencies, or local abuse agencies

Psychotic Losers There are losers that are severely ill in a psychiatric sense - the movie description of the "Fatal Attraction". Some may tell you wild stories and try to convince you that they are connected to or in danger of The Mob or a government agency (CIA, FBI, etc.) They hate law enforcement.  They may fake terminal illness, or disease. If you try to end the relationship, they react violently and give you the impression that you, your friends, or your family are in serious danger. People often then remain in the abusive and controlling relationship due to fear of harm to their family or their reputation. While such fears are unrealistic as "The Loser" is only interested in controlling you, those fears feel very real when combined with the other characteristics of "The Loser".

   Psychotic or psychiatrically ill losers may also stalk, follow, or harass you. They may threaten physical violence, show weapons, or threaten to kill you or themselves if you leave them. If you try to date others, they may follow you or threaten your new date. Your new date may be subjected to phone harassment, vandalism, threats, and even physical assaults. If you are recently divorced, separated, or recently ended another relationship, "The Loser" may be intimidating toward your ex-partner, fearing you might return if the other partner is not "scared off". Just remember - everything "The Loser" has ever done to anyone will be coming your way. "The Loser" may send you pictures of you, your children, or your family - pictures they have taken secretly - hinting that they can "reach out and touch" those you love. You may need help and legal action to separate from these individuals. This person thinks everyone is against him and will put you on that fear list.

Loser chart from http://www.agpcabinc.org  other graphics see below

Mr. Bigstuff

Oh yeah who Mr.Bigstuff who do u think u are?
Mr.Bigstuff you're never gonna get my love    Not because you wear
All those fancy clothes (oh yeah)
And have a big fine car
Oh yes you do now
Do you think I can't afford
To give you my love (oh yeah)
You think you're higher
Than every star above   Mr.Bigstuff who do you think you are?
Mr.Bigstuff you're never gonna get my love Now I know all the girls
I've seen you with
I know you broke their hearts
And ate them up bit by bit
You made them cry
Many poor girls cry
When they trying to keep you happy
They just trying ta keep you satisfied Mr. Bigstuff (tell me tell me) who do you think you are?
Mr.Bigstuff you're never gonna get my loveI'd rather give my love
To a poor guy that has a love that is true
(Oh yeah)
Then to be fooled by
And get hurt by you Cause when I give my love
I want love in return (oh yeah)
Now I know this is a lesson
Mr.Bigstuff you haven't learned Mr.Bigstuff tell me who do you think you are?
Mr.Bigstuff you're never gonna get my love
Mr.Bigstuff you're never gonna break my heart
Mr.Bigstuff you're never gonna make me cry
 

Diane